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Sandy didn't just change my life, she shook it. She was a force, full of joy and passion. She had such self-knowledge and such self-assurance that she shone, intimidating to some and brilliant to others and to me. She was an amazing woman. Sandy's love of fandom and love of her friends was as true and important as anything anyone can experience in this world.

I'm so grateful for the moments I shared with Sandy. I felt her loss the one year of vividcon she couldn't come and the thought that she will never again be there with us is too cruel to bear.

What we all have is our memories of her and we must share these. I know that Sandy's incredible personality and force will live on with all of us. I want to hear every last one of your stories about her.

I wish I believed in an afterlife. I really do. What we do with the time we have is so important. A life well lived, to me, is about a life shared. I'm forever reminded at how fortunate I've been to make the friends I've made and had all the precious moments we've shared together. Those days in august over the last six years are among the happiest days of my life and so many of you are a part of that. Sandy was part of those moments too and I will never forget those days. They are a part of who I am now and the thing that holds back the grief and anger and sadness and loss I feel over Sandy's death is knowing how vibrantly she lived and how truly changed we all are by that and how we will all be able to share with each other and to everyone we meet a part of the incredible joy and awesomeness that Sandy Herrold gave to all of us just by being Sandy.

Date: 2011-07-19 08:15 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] kass
I feel so fortunate -- always -- to have found fandom, to have made the friends I've made here, to have met these amazing and remarkable and strong and witty and fabulous people. And Sandy is high on that list. Always will be.

She did live vibrantly, didn't she? I want to try to do the same, in her honor, in her memory, you know?

Date: 2011-07-19 09:04 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] laurashapiro
Yes.
I wish I believed in an afterlife. I really do.
This resonates with me so much. Most of the time I don't give my unbelief a second thought, but at times like this, it's excruciating not to have that comfort. I'm glad we're here to comfort each other instead.

Date: 2011-07-19 09:47 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] killabeez
This is an extraordinarily beautiful post. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and memories—it means a lot to know that she was loved and appreciated so much and so widely.

*hugs*

Date: 2011-07-19 11:15 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] elke_tanzer
and *more hugs*

Date: 2011-07-20 12:31 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] deejay
*hugs go here*

Date: 2011-07-20 01:21 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] heresluck
Sandy's love of fandom and love of her friends was as true and important as anything anyone can experience in this world.

This. Yes.

And: a force, absolutely.

Date: 2011-07-20 06:18 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] mlyn
Thank you, Ian; this is beautiful.

Date: 2011-07-21 04:47 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] gwyn
Thank you for this. I am having a really, really hard time and I truly appreciated reading this.

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